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Am I A Narcissist?

Barbara Heffernan • June 9, 2023

Whenever the topic of narcissism comes up, my caring, empathetic, reasonable clients begin to wonder: "Am I a narcissist?!"

And if you've been in a relationship with a narcissist, you have most likely been
called a narcissist.

I'm going to give you SEVEN questions that will help you look into this more deeply.

First, let’s identify:

What A Narcissistic Personality Disorder Is.


While "narcissism" is being used somewhat casually these days, the term actually refers to someone with a
personality disorder.

Narcissistic behavior is a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others.

Now that we’ve identified what narcissistic personality disorder is, ask yourself:

 

1) Do You Constantly Brag About Your Achievements?

This is different than acknowledging what you’re good at and not good at. 

 

2) Do You Always Like To Be The Center Of Attention?

A narcissist will often create a distraction if they’re not the center of attention. 

 

3) Do You Make Yourself Feel Good By Putting Others Down?

And if you do this on a rare occasion, do you recognize it and then feel really guilty?

If yes, then you’re probably not a narcissist.

However, if you don’t, you might be a narcissist.


For the four other questions, watch the video
here: Am I A Narcissist?

Blog Author: Barbara Heffernan, LCSW, MBA. Barbara is a licensed psychotherapist and specialist in anxiety, trauma, and healthy boundaries. She had a private practice in Connecticut for twenty years before starting her popular YouTube channel designed to help people around the world live a more joyful life. Barbara has a BA from Yale University, an MBA from Columbia University and an MSW from SCSU.  More info on Barbara can be found on her bio page.

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