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7 Signs of a People Pleaser
Barbara Heffernan • June 9, 2023
Are you tired of feeling like you always put others' needs before your own?
If so, you may be a chronic people-pleaser.
Don't worry, you're not alone.
In fact, many people struggle with this same issue. To help you identify if this is something you're dealing with, these are the common traits of true chronic people pleasers.
- Do You Have a Hard Time Making Decisions?
If so, you may find yourself asking,
“Is it selfish not to do what someone else wants?”
Indecision can be caused by being afraid to disappoint people.
But guess what? It’s okay to disappoint others.
- Do You Have Low Self-Esteem?
Do you feel like your needs, wants, and opinions don’t matter?
If so, you may often change your opinion based on what others think.
This can cause you to become disconnected from your true self.
- Are You Constantly Exhausted?
Keeping other people happy is exhausting.
You’ll just keep running and running and running to try to do it.
In my latest YouTube video, I reveal the remaining four signs of chronic people-pleasing. If any of these traits resonate with you, it's time to take a deeper look into your people-pleasing tendencies.
These habits are not easy to break, but developing a sense of your own self-worth and value is key to overcoming chronic people-pleasing.
Blog Author: Barbara Heffernan, LCSW, MBA. Barbara is a licensed psychotherapist and specialist in anxiety, trauma, and healthy boundaries. She had a private practice in Connecticut for twenty years before starting her popular YouTube channel designed to help people around the world live a more joyful life. Barbara has a BA from Yale University, an MBA from Columbia University and an MSW from SCSU. More info on Barbara can be found on her bio page.
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